Obsessions

We all have obsessions in life. Some are mild, some are dangerous. Both are hard to distinguish. Simple things can become a huge obsession, like losing weight for example. Some behaviours are so risky that people end up developing an obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Why do we allow that to happen? The mind is far more complex than we believe it is. Intrusive thoughts have the power to enslave us without us noticing. Life is so complicated, isn’t it? No, it isn’t. We make things complicated because we are always second-guessing our decisions. It’s when the intrusive thoughts begin to take control over our minds. “Should I eat that?”. “Are my hands clean enough?”. “Where is she going?”. “What are they hiding?”. “What if I call him just one more time?”. When we need to do an extra effort to get something, it’s because it wasn’t supposed to be ours in the first place. That’s how simple life is. There is tremendous beauty in all its simplicity, but not everyone can see it.  Instead, people choose to obsess over something (or someone) and from that moment on, their lives are completely destroyed. Having an unhealthy mind means having an unhealthy life.

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6 thoughts on “Obsessions

  1. I still can’t believe how fast you are. U know what i mean, right??
    You didn’t missed even one thought, one detail and still organised it so well. I really think that your career is coming faster than i thought (i can tell you by “the orphan”).
    Don’t forget to autograph the first edition of a future best seller 😉

  2. Its funny how obsession can make you miserable and life worse but yet where would we be without (healthy) obsessions. You express beautifully your thoughts. Thank you for sharing. Writer in the making!!! Xoxo

  3. Its funny how obsession can make you miserable and life worse but yet where would we be without any (healthy). You express beautifully your thoughts. Thank you for sharing. I see a writer in the making!!! Xoxo

    • I think there’s no such thing as “healthy obsessions”. Those would be the goals we pursue in life. Thank you very much for taking the time to read my blog! 🙂 You’re awesome! :*

  4. Obsessions? OCD? Tell me about them. I suffer from several OCDs and over the years they developed into a serious problem. I won’t be sharing all of them but I will be sharing a common one that you already mentioned which is the compulsive behaviour that consists of repeating a certain act (hand washing, turning light switch on/off etc.) thinking with fear that a bad event (ex: death of a loved one) might occur if that act was not performed. Intrusive thoughts are powerful enough to break us. A good example from my personal experience would be having to flip the light switch on & off for an x amount of time (has to be an even number too) or else my whole family will die. I thought I would be risking my family members’ lives by not doing this act. It’s absolutely ridiculous right? But when your thoughts are controlling you, it’s very hard to get out of it even when you know what you’re doing is stupid but then there’s the compulsion, that feel of regret kicks in, and you’re always left with one question in your mind repeating and saying “What if?”. The source of the compulsion itself, the “What if?” question.

    The problem gets even worse when the sufferer starts adding one or more maneuver(s) to the original act which makes his/her life harder. A complete waste of time yet aggravating the sufferer’s condition. In my case, I added jumping to the light switch act so I had to jump while switching the lights on & off repeatedly. Now you can probably imagine how dumb I looked when I was doing that but guess what? I had to do it, it felt like I had no other choice. Even if I was interrupted by someone, I remembered that I had to do it eventually when that person leaves the room. That’s how bad it was.

    I’m writing this because over the years I have managed to control that obsession, that compulsion through a simple technique yet a daring situation for the sufferer. And I will be sharing this hoping that others would read it and find it helpful. You see, OCD is not a disease. There are no pills or any form of medication that can help you overcome this problem. However, OCD has clear symptoms and through those symptoms one can identify a case. OCD is a mental disorder, not insanity. Let’s say it’s a collection of thoughts that our mind gather then start feeding them to us one by one. Now you may ask, they’re just thoughts how bad could they be? Well in all honesty? Really bad. In fact, it might be the worst thing you’ll ever encounter in your life, intrusive thoughts. Have you asked yourself this question “What drives someone to take his own life?”. That’s how bad thoughts can be. Their influence might drive us nuts to a point we might lose sense of living.

    Like you said, our mind is complex. Unfortunately, many people who are faced with somewhat complex problems think that their solutions are as complex as their problems. That statement is fortunately false. The technique I have used is indeed simple, it requires no drugs and no tools. The only tool you need is your mind. Yup, fight your mind using your mind. Don’t attempt to fight the thoughts themselves, it will only make it worse. Trying to forget a thought by forcing yourself to forget it is basically telling the mind to repeat it since you’re referencing it again. You’ll end up with an endless loop.

    The trick is simpler, much much simpler. Face your fears. Exactly, instead of trying to escape them, face them. How? It’s hard at the beginning but you can do it like I did it and it worked. Don’t perform the obsessive act. Challenge yourself to not do it and wait for the results. Basically switch the lights off when you have to and on when you need it and you only do it once. Yes it’s going to bug you and the feel of compulsion and the “what if?” question will pop up again but ignore them for now. Tell yourself that you’ll get back to them later and that for now you’re only going to switch the lights on/off once. That’s where the trick kicks in. Remember you said that you will get back to the obsession later. You’re only doing a test to see what happens. When I stopped the repetition, I noticed that nothing happened in terms of the things I feared might happen if I didn’t do the act. That’s something you will notice over the days.

    You see, we do forget, but not completely. The mind is not going to delete the thought. The thought is still somewhere but our mind is powerful enough to suppress it. Time is key. The idea of going back to the obsession goes away once you find yourself daring and challenging yourself. Why? Because you’re taking a risk now and your mind is not used to it so it’s focusing on this new experience while the previous one fades away and becomes something from the past. Yes, it’s that simple. You just have to take a risk. Life is all about risk taking, and that, is no different 🙂

    People with phobias can also try this one too. It makes a whole lot of difference when you decide to face your fears. Remember, it’s all in your mind. Only you, can help yourself.

    And always remember that for every complex problem there is a simple solution. 🙂

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